Dear Love Coach

I am gay and have been living with my partner for the last six years, whom I love dearly. Recently my secretary at work has been telling me about two women in the office that are interested in me.

I know this sounds daft, but the idea of straight women finding me sexually attractive has been arousing. I've been masturbating in the toilet several times a day since I found out. I am happy being gay and I love my partner, so why is this happening to me?

Jeff, New Jersey, USA

Dear Jeff,

This situation isn't as unusual as you might think. The fact that other people are finding you hot, aside from your partner, is bound to make you feel sexual, regardless of their gender and sexual orientation.

And remember, there was a time when you didn't realise you were gay and you may have found women attractive, even if it was a small part of you. You can't ignore this side, so embrace those feelings, just make sure you lock the door behind you in the restroom and keep the noise down.